11.06.2011

Moving On.


So, yeah. Remember this post , from back in July?


Taken in 2005.
John is on the left, I'm on the right.
My mother-in-law is in the middle.
Enough.Said.




Also, are you familiar with the literary term "foreshadowing"?

fore·shad·ow

[fawr-shad-oh, fohr-]
verb (used with object)
to show or indicate beforehand; prefigure.

Maybe I should have bolted way back then, in 2005, when my mother-in-law first plopped her bony ass between us.
I had no idea that it would stay there for next six years.

She has been the source of a great deal of stress and disagreements in our marriage. It got much worse after she and her ex-husband divorced; she has no social life now and decided to make our business, her business.
I don't fault her completely; her son should have put a stop to it long ago. But he didn't, and the stress built up. It ate away at our happiness. It ate away at our marriage. The stress John was under, trying to run interference between his mother and his wife....it changed him. He is no longer the funny, carefree, happy guy I married. It affected his relationship with me, and with my children.

Between that and the way both he and his mother are choosing to raise Andrew, and the way they are handling the court situation with Andrew's biological mother....I've had as much as I can take.

I'm not saying everything is all her fault. There are other problems as well. I believe that people come into our lives for a season, a reason, or a lifetime. I believe this particular season of my life is drawing to a close.

I'm not happy, and more importantly, my children are not happy.

And now, Mother In Law Dearest has won. Because I'm done. She can have all the control she wants. And everything else that comes with it.

We are not promised tomorrow. Life is too short to live this way.

I'm moving on.





17 comments:

April said...

I am so very sorry to hear this news, Cyndy. My MIL has been the source of many "issues" between my husband and I over the years, but I'm thankful that we've been able to rise above and live our own life. I know it's not an easy situation to deal with, by any means. So, are you saying that there are no chances for working things out? You're in my prayers!

Debby@Just Breathe said...

Cyndy, I am so sorry. If I can help you in any way please let me know. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Thank you for sharing your heart. ((HUGS))

Pixie said...

*HUGS* you ever need an ear my email is always open

Amy @ Clan Carlson said...

*hugs* I am so, so sorry that it has finally come to this point. :( You are an awesome woman, and I hope that everything gets better as you move toward your next adventure.

kristi said...

I am so sorry. Hugs to you!

blueviolet said...

I'm sorry that it worked out this way, but I know you're doing what's best for you and your family. Sometimes it just has to come to this so you can survive.

Tara R. said...

I am so sorry about this. It's hard to have to compete like that with your MIL.

Laurie of Lulu and Daisy said...

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Hugs and prayers to you and your children. Life is too short to be unhappy.

ElizabethSheryl said...

Oh, I am sorry. You'll be in my thoughts.

Amy said...

I am so very sorry that she was so selfish as to intrude in your marriage and your family. Im also sorry that John wasn't adult enough to stand up for your family unit and defend it.

You know I'm here for you ANYtime you want to talk/chat - day or night!

Hugs!

Helene said...

I'm so sorry it has come to this for you. It's sad that she can't realize what a wonderful, loving person you are and that she can't accept that her son now has his own life and his own family, which should be his number one priority.

Sending many (((HUGS))) your way.

ChiTown Girl said...

I'm so sorry to read this. But, I know you'll make the right decisions regarding what's best for your family. Best of luck to you.
xoxox

Cyn & Co. said...

I am so sorry things have turned out this way, but doing what's best for your children and yourself is what matters most. It's such a shame that so many MIL's (mine included) can't see where the line is drawn and respect it.

Sending good vibes and thoughts your way, hoping it all gets better. When one door closes, another one opens.

XOXO

WhisperingWriter said...

I'm so sorry you're going through this. :/

scribblingsofasoccermom.com said...

Oh no! I am so sorry. You were right, though, when you said HE should have put a stop to it a long time ago. It's still hard. Good luck!

SMHMama said...

*Big hugs* I am so sorry to hear this. I can tell by your tone there has been a lot of hurt so it is always best to get yourself out of those types of situations. I wish you luck and hope you find happiness.

Erin said...

I don't have much advice, my heart aches for you, but on the other hand is glad you realized enough is enough! xoxo