2.23.2009

Unfathomable

My friend is making preparations for the burial of her son today.
She has known since he was a baby that this time would come. But I do not think this is something a parent can ever, ever prepare him or herself for.
She is my sister's close friend, and years ago, she and I worked together. Her son had cystic fibrosis. He has spent a good portion of his life in the hospital. Life was not easy for him.
He did graduate high school last year, which I posted about at the time....it was an especially poignant event for his family.
There is just something so unfathomable, so wrong, about a parent burying their child. I can't even wrap my brain around it.
It shouldn't have to be.

*don't be alarmed, or forget about me, if I'm not around much...I'm sort of taking a break and sort of crazy busy!*

22 comments:

♥ bfs~"Mimi" ♥ said...

Oh, that is so awful. I have a friend whose son died of cancer right after high school graduation.

No parent should have to bury their child. I will pray for the parent; it would be a heavy cross to bear.

SweetPeaSurry said...

Awww what a nice tribute to your friend and her son.

blessings on you.

Twisted Fencepost said...

So sad! I hope I never have to deal with such a loss. The loss of my parents was hard enough. I, like you, cannot fathom the pain of losing a child.
My thoughts and prayers are with them.

Hot Tub Lizzy said...

Knowing it's coming doesn't keep those thoughts of "maybe my son will be the miracle" away... my thoughts and prayers are with you and your sweet friend.

April said...

Please know that I'll be keeping your friend very close in my prayers during this difficult time...I can't even begin to imagine!

Kel said...

I'm so sorry for your friend...I'll keep her in my thoughts and prayers. No, no parent should ever have to go thru that...so sad.
~K

Momisodes said...

That is tragic. No parent should ever have to bury their child. My thoughts are with your friend and her family.

C said...

awww i am SO sorry for your friend's family, and for you too. god bless everyone's little cotton socks. i'm sure that boy is with god this moment, completely cured, running around as he should, until his family joins him one day.

blessings,

C

pb&j in a bowl said...

I'm sending up huge prayers for comfort and understanding for your friend and her family.

Karol said...

I'm so sorry that they have to go through this. I'm so sorry you had to go through what you did.

*hugs*

I pray the family has friends all around at this time and is blessed with peace.

diane rene said...
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diane rene said...

Don't Tell Me
Please don't tell me you know how I feel,
Unless you have lost your child too,
Please don't tell me my broken heart will heal,
Because that is just not true,
Please don't tell me my son is in a better place,
Though it is true, I want him here with me,
Don't tell me someday I'll hear his voice, see his face,
Beyond today I cannot see,
Don't tell me it is time to move on,
Because I cannot,
Don't tell me to face the fact he is gone,
Because denial is something I can't stop,
Don't tell me to be thankful for the time I had,
Because I wanted more,
Don't tell me when I am my old self you will be glad,
I'll never be as I was before,
What you can tell me is you will be here for me,
That you will listen when I talk of my child,
You can share with me my precious memories,
You can even cry with me for a while,
And please don't hesitate to say his name,
Because it is something I long to hear everyday,
Friend please realize that I can never be the same,
But if you stand by me, you may like the new person I become someday.

Judi Walker
(In Memory of Shane)
Copyright 1998


(((HUGS FOR ALL)))

dude said...

she will be in my thoughts.

in time, her memories will soothe the wounds, and she will be able to cherish every moment of every day they shared with joy

Wonderful World of Weiners said...

I'm so very sorry for their loss.

Hallie

Wonderful World of Weiners said...

I'm so very sorry for their loss.

Hallie

John Deere Mom said...

I was just watching Cora's video on The Mac's blog. And then I read this. I just can't imagine. Not even a little bit. Time to hug the kiddos until they can't stand it!

Butterfly Kisses said...

oh so sad! My prayers and heart go out to you and this family. HUGS

Minxy Mimi said...

That is so sad, and so unfathomable. My sisters friend had this same type of thing happen to her. The pain in thier eyes was so shattering.

Scary Mommy said...

Oh, that is totally unfathomable. How terrible. :( I'll be thinking of them, and you too...

blueviolet said...

That is so terribly sad. I'm sorry. Hugs...

Lori said...

I'm so sorry for your friend! When Jerry was hurt and in the hospital, we met a family who had 4 children. The little girl is the one we met first and she had CF. One day, years later we read her obit and it broke my heart. Then a few years later, her younger brother died of CF. It's heartbreaking and it's such a horrible disease. It breaks your heart just to hear about it, couldn't imagine every having to go thru it! Prayers for your friend & her family.

Marivic_Little GrumpyAngel said...

Yes, it's awful. As someone who this happened to years ago I am familiar with the pain. There are no words you can say to ease your friends pain, but just being her friend and a shoulder to lean on will bring comfort.