Friday Fragments: The Good, The Bad, & The Ugly

I'm working hard at keeping in the Christmas spirit, even though Scrooge herself crawled out of her hell-hole and made an appearance this week.
Really, I shouldn't insult Scrooge like that. Anyway, Andrew's "biological mother" (I think I just threw up in my mouth) came out of the woodwork again, this time through the court system, lying & manipulating as usual. We have plenty of defensive measures, including his psychiatrist who has said many times that she would testify on our behalf if this ever happened, that it is not in A's best interest to see Satan's Spawn. Not to mention emails between the two of us, because I save EVERYTHING. I am just sick that she is so selfish that she wants to shake up his stable, secure life. But, your good thoughts & prayers are deeply needed and appreciated, and I will update you all as things progress.
(For those of you who aren't regulars and have no idea what I'm talking about, you can read here or here for some background, or search "Andrew" and/or "Spiderman" ([when I first started blogging, I used pseudonyms]).

OK, that takes care of the bad and the ugly! Moving on to the good.....

My oldest daughter Shelbie will be 15 on Sunday. We're having her party tonight. My house will be full of teenage girls! *SQUEEEE* *OhEmGEE!!* and all that stuff! We're having a bonfire and pizza (that's what she wanted, whatever!). Hopefully I will still have a little bit of sanity left when it's all over!

The weekend will be a busy one; church play practice, parades, Christmas lights tours, our church's Christmas program, making crafts, baking, etc. Possibly even seeing my parents, who I haven't spent time in with in months, but that's a whole 'nother blog post.
Oh, and? Almost all of my Christmas shopping still has to be done.
I am SO glad John loves shopping and will help me with all of it!
Then on Sunday evening, the kids will go to their Dad's and be gone for a whole week. *sniffle*

Anyway! Back to the Good! This is the first year in probably 8 or 9 years that my family has been unable to choose a name from the Angel Tree and buy gifts for a child or family in need. I still planned to but as Christmas came closer, I realized there's just no way to do it. I did give Shelbie money to fill a shoebox for a program with the youth group, and we still put change in the Salvation Army buckets, and I resigned myself to that being as much as we could do this year.
How is this good, you ask? Because of OHmommy, that's why. OHmommy and her worms, manure, and crabs. Seriously. Check it out. Through OxFam, OHmommy gave away "a card that announces you purchased a school desk and chair, in your recipient's honor".
And guess who won? ME! My family. I am so happy! We couldn't do much this year, but through OHmommy & OxFam, we're doing something wonderful, that will make a big difference to someone in need.

I hope you all have a fantastic weekend, and don't lose your mind in the holiday rush! Relax and enjoy yourselves. And give yourself a break! You're running around like a crazy person and kicking yourself for not having everything done. RELAX. There's only one of you, and you know what? You're doing a GREAT JOB.

Oh um, one more tiny little thing. I honestly don't usually pay a lot of attention to my follower numbers, but lately it's been hovering just under 400 and it's driving me batty! If you're not a follower, if you would take 5 seconds and follow me and get me over that 400 mark, I will follow you back AND love you forever!

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ETA: Crap! 3rd week in and I forgot to post my Song of the Week. The first thing that came to mind is this gem, another one from Miranda Lambert. (although Gunpowder & Lead is another good one of hers, as well. Just saying.)

Mommy's Idea


lisleman said...

I pushed it to 399 - Merry Christmas

heather@actingbalanced.com said...

I'm already one of the 399 who diligently follow... We're having a leaner Christmas this year too... hopefully 2011 will be a much better year for everyone! The Oxfam giveaway sounds wonderful!
I was lucky to be part of a myblogspark project that donated $ to helping hands on my behalf this year and I made donations in lieu of gifts for my grands, but I wish I could do more!
Happy fragmented friday!

Lynn Daws said...

Happy Holidays to you...I am happy to say that I am #400...yay for me...yay for you!!!!

Seizing My Day said...

Hope it all sorts itself out soon... I have a good friend who goes through similar stuff with an ex... don't let it steal your joy!! ;)

C said...

i already follow you cindy loo hoo. [wah who bah who... i always think of that grinche movie when i write your name lol]

and nuttin to do wiff mr. grinch ...

happy holidays to you and yours. i hope and pray you have a peaceful, fantastic one.

we are having a tight holiday too. no prezzies this year but ya know, its ok cuz we have eachother. i will have all my kids here and sister and diane.. thats what really matters.

as for the bitch witch, you go girl, keep her as far away from A as you can. she has no right to shake up his holiday nor his life. i am steaming with you...

it'll be ok, hon... just fight fire with fire and it will work out. she cant win. she is not a good person.

merry christmas...

Mama Wheaton said...

Lean is the theme (hey I made a rhyme) this year. We went to the Ronald McDonald house and helped decorate it for the families for Christmas.

Amy said...

Best of luck to you with the Andrew situation. You are so right that donation of egg or sperm does not a "parent" make.

Have fun with the birthday party this weekend.

Merry Christmas!

Brandy@YDK said...

so sorry you have to deal with HER here at christmas. what a spirit crusher.

Kirby3131 said...

Sometimes you have to donate time and talent instead of funds and gifts :) If it weren't for time and talent people nothing would get done with the funds and gifts!

Prayers for you with bio mom.

hope you enjoyed the slumber party!! :)

Kristin - The Goat

qandlequeen said...

Sorry to hear crazy is making another appearance in your world. I never understand the need for this in our lives, but they say it does make us stronger. Wouldn't it be nice to have a little peace and quiet and just be content with our current strength levels???

My Christmas wish for you is peace and quiet.

diane rene said...

((HUGS)) and more hugs to you and Andrew. no one needs that kind of grinch this christmas (and sadly, they are filing out of their holes in record numbers).

have a wonderful weekend and we will all try to have faith in good over evil. remind me, k? ;0)

Tettelestai said...

yahoo, i was 401!!!

i am so sorry you guys have to struggle with crazy people over the holidays!! good job keeping good records! always a good thing!!

i personally think you are a great mom!! my mother let us have some great slumber parties and i remember them very fondly. a bonfire would have been fantastic!!!

Debby@Just Breathe said...

See you made it to 400, hooray! I have to say that you are in need of prayers and a great big ((HUG)). Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

shortmama said...

Sending prayers your way!

Looks like you made it past 400!

Myya said...

I'm a few days late in reading but when I logged on I see that you made it too 400... actually you passed it. YAY!!!
Sending prayers your way, All will turn out well for Andrew because he deserves it that way!!! I am also praying for you & your hubs in that you have the strength to make sure it all turns out well for him. Hopefully he will be shielded from it all, I wish you all could be.
God bless your whole family - Merry Merry Christmas!!!

Amy said...

*hugs* I'm sending good thoughts your way in regards to your custody/legal issues... There seems to be an ever-increasing number of walking 'wombs' in this world.