4.30.2008

Mantras - Update

It works.
It really works!
Okay, I knew it did, but sometimes it's hard to be positive and do what I know I should do.
But I feel far better than I did before I posted the Monday Mantras. I am doing my best to live the mantras, and it's amazing what a difference it makes.
I'm also reading a book called Embraced by the Light.
It's an old book, you probably read it years ago. It's a woman's true account of her near-death experience, and what she learned from it. It really resonates for me; so much of what she says she learned is stuff that I believe in the core of my being. That life is all about how we treat others, and about LOVE. And the fact that most of our reactions are based on love or fear. When it's fear, we have to identify that fear in order to solve the problem. It makes so much sense.
See, without going into too much detail........there's someone on the outer fringes of my personal life. Actually there are two someones, and I will have to deal with them for the rest of my life, in some way or another. So, I tried my best to get along well with them, and it's been a roller coaster ride. We're at the bottom of the hill now, and I don't see us ever going back up.
One of these someones posts on a website, and literally every day, without fail, there is a negative comment about me. Whether direct or indirect, it's there. Daily. At least one comment, usually more. Anything I do, is commented about in a nasty way by this person.

Examples:
Reality: We rescue/foster dogs.
This person's spin: She has 5 dogs in a little box of a house and I feel sorry for those poor kids having to live like that, blah blah blah.

Reality: I had weight loss surgery.
This person's spin: She took the easy way out. People who have that surgery always look SICK when they lose weight. I only respect people who lose weight the 'normal' way.

I could go on and on, but I'll spare you. This has been going on for many months. It's hard, when you know someone is posting about you, to avoid reading it. It's out there, every day, just a google search away. But I came to a realization the day I posted my Monday Mantras. I am choosing to read this garbage. Then I'm choosing to let it tick me off. I'm letting this person control my emotions. And I'm even stooping to their level by sometimes responding to it.
And I decided, no more! I won't let this person have this effect on me. If they want to spend their time talking about me....more power to them! I never knew I was so fascinating, but whatevah.
But I won't be a part of this drama any longer.
Thus, the Monday Mantras. And let me tell you, I feel free. Free of the negativity and drama and ugliness of it all. I haven't even peeked ONCE to see what this person is saying about me lately since I did the Mantras. Not even once, and I'm proud of myself. I'm done. I'm rising above it. I won't allow that stuff into my life any more. I won't allow it to color my world, or my day, or my mood. That's not how I live my life. It was just a temporary ditch I stepped in. But I'm out of it now, and enjoying my wonderful life without the darkness slipping in.
Personally....I have to live for the day, make the most of it, and not let negative junk take up unnecessary time. That's how I choose to live my life, and I'm so glad I got my focus back where it belongs.

11 comments:

Kat said...

I found you through your Cre8buzz profile and thought I'd stop by to say hello.

I loved your post because you chose not to be put down by these crude comments on these other people's blogs. But you chose not to be part of this drama any longer and I hope that this will brighten your outlook on life.

Beth from the Funny Farm said...

Awesome! Remember: Do not give people the power to ruin YOUR day!

LunaNik said...

You're doing the right thing by not reading, reacting, or responding to those negative words. They will only drag you down. Someone once told me never to give anyone the remote control to my emotional well being. Such wise words. By reading those negative comments you really were giving them the remote control to YOU. So glad you stopped!!

Tara R. said...

Wow... she has nothing better to do? I have always wondered why anyone has to put someone else down, just to boost themselves up. Seriously, if you don't acknowledge bullies, they usually just GO. AWAY.

cyndy said...

Thank you all! I almost didn't write this because I thought it would be BOOOR-ing, but now I'm glad I did. :o)
Luna: love the remote control reference!
Tara: apparently, she doesn't. sad, isn't it?

krissy said...

People who choose to torment and gossip about others are shameful. They are wasted space and time. I learned this the hard way too. The realization of it all is that they are so pathetic in their own world that they must find someone else to be pathetic with them.

I applaud you for giving them the old boot to the ass and ignoring their ignorance. They will soon realize that they are the ones that are pitiful. And if they don't realize that, they will move on to someother poor soul to attach their negativity too.

If you need me to give them a piece of my mind though, I am willing to do so. I have pent up anger and I am not afraid to use it.

Rebecca said...

Good for you! :)

Momo Fali said...

Yay you! Keep up the good attitude!

Ramblin' Red said...

Yay, yay, yay - you're letting go of the negativity. I need to work on that as well!

A Buns Life said...

Amen. Life is too short to worry yourself about petty crap like that. Seriously. You have so many friends that care about you and support you and want to build you up, why would you even bother yourself with someone who only wants to break you down?

Alison said...

good for you Cyndy...isn't it empowering to free yourself of negativity!!!