9.16.2009

What she's missing

In case some of you didn't realize it, the child I was referring to in my last post was Andrew, my stepson. Sunday was his 10th birthday. We're having his "friend party" this weekend, but we had his family dinner on Sunday night.
I always let the kids choose the menu for their birthday dinner. Andrew chose pizza (make-your-own on English muffins), carrots with ranch dip, and peas. I also made a cheese & cracker tray because he loves them. And of course, cake and ice cream.

I don't know if he thought about his "mother" on his birthday. He didn't mention her at all. I don't know if he realizes how abnormal it is for a mother not to see or speak to her child on his birthday. She's never been a traditional mother to him.



(yeah, I made it. don't laugh!)




She's missing out.


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23 comments:

MaryRC said...

dropped in from sits. sounds like he had his mother there on his birthday, you! my father has always been in my life, but my step (cringe) dad has always been there too. i love want and need them both. they're both my dads. happy wednesday.

parentingBYdummies said...

Least he has you which makes him kinda lucky! Dropped by from SITS today:)

Upstatemomof3 said...

UGH!!! Absentee parents make me so mad. Looks like he had a nice time with you though.

cat said...

Thank goodness he had his mother with him - you are doing a great job of it.

mommaof4wife2r said...

she is ssoooooooo missing out...and you are sooo being "with". good work momma...and the cake...i actually said outloud, "ahhh, that is so cute." and thought instantly of making one for my nephew! good work!

Kel said...

he looks like he had a wonderful birthday and the cake is too cute! :)
~K
Happy B-lated Birthday Andrew

Juls said...

He shares the same b-day as Maeci. :) And, I can't imagine (as a mom) missing these special days. He's so lucky that he has you, I say! :)

Manic Mother said...

Your such a good mom! How did you get him to choose vegetables for his bday dinner? I have to know the secret!

Swoozie said...

What a great cake....and what a great (step)mom as well!

In from SITS! Have a great WW!

LceeL said...

His Natal Mother is 'missing' so much - and 'missing' from his life, as well. He has YOU, now, lucky boy. And that's what he REALLY needs. You.

Tiaras said...

looks like he is really happy!

La Belle Mere UK said...

Sounds like he has a much better mother in you and probably realises that. Poor kid tho - that's outrageous.

Just found your blog! I'm a fellow wicked steppy! You have a new follower.

LBM xx

Susie said...

Good for you for stepping in for his birth mom. A boy shouldn't pay for his mother's poor choices. It looks like you have made him very happy:-)

Helene said...

I totally agree....she is missing out. At least he has YOU in his life. Doesn't seem like he's lacking a mother at all with you in his life.

BTW, I love your cake. The fact that you made it for him out of love is what's important!

Maeve's Mom said...

She is missing out. What a special person you are to be in his life as the mom he needs. That's what he will remember when he grows up, how special you are to him. Happy Belated Birthday to him!

hperry said...

cute cake!!!!

Frogs in my formula said...

I think that's a great cake. He looks like a really sweet kid. She IS missing out.

Tara R. said...

Seriously missing out, and by the time she figures it out, it will be too late.

Happy Birthday to Andrew!

Kim said...

I bet it was a GREAT birthday because of you. look at his smile.. :)

shortmama said...

You said it right...SHE is missing out.

Erin said...

OMG I LOVE the cake!! That gives me a fab idea for Thomas' 3rd bday cake...now I just need to remember it in May...can you post this again in May? Just wondering...

Karen in Texas said...

Great job on the cake and thank goodness Andrew has you to be Mom in his life.

Lea said...

If I had a stepmother like you, I would probably have never thought about my mother.. fact is, neither my stepmother nor my bio mom were any good at being mothers to me. To their next children? Oh yeah, they were great... I apparently was not worth the effort nor deserving enough, to have a mother figure in my life that wasn't cold, standoffish, rude and abusive.

Makes it hard to be a mother your self without having a real role model mother... doing the best I can though.

And btw, nice cake! I love handmade cakes, far more personal and loving!