9.14.2009

I can't imagine

I can't imagine how a "Mother" walks away from her baby when he is 6 months old for some guy she's dating....after losing her firstborn son less than a year before.
I can't imagine how a "Mother" breezes in and out of that child's life for years afterward.
I can't imagine how a "Mother" forgets to pick her child up from day care for a scheduled visitation. Or just has better things to do.
I can't imagine how a "Mother" finally somewhat gets her life together and has her son move in with her, only to emotionally abuse him and then throw it all away.
I can't imagine how this "Mother" lets him go back to his father again without blinking an eye.
I can't imagine how this "Mother" goes months without seeing her son and only calling once or twice.
So, I don't know why it even surprises me, when this same "Mother" lets her son's 10th birthday pass by without so much as a phone call.
There must be something very flawed within a person that allows them to turn away from their own child.
Did she forget that it was her son's birthday? Or did she just not bother? Either way, it's unfathomable to me. Especially after losing one child....how in the world do you turn your back on another?
I can't imagine.

25 comments:

Grace said...

You putting quotes around mother is giving this lady too much credit. All because you birth a baby doesn't make you a mother. YOU are mom... but you already know that. It hurts my heart to think how this might be affecting your sweet son Andrew.

I'm sure you all will celebrate this upcoming weekend with a bang!

SmartPumpkin'sMom said...

I can't imagine that either! Unfortunately, there is a few like that. :(
Stopping by from SITS. Always welcome @ my place ;).

melissa said...

oh. god. that poor kid. that is so awful. she sounds worse than my husbands ex. i thought she was selfish and disturbed.
what a horrible situation for him.
xoxo

-melissa
http://www.rockanddrool.com

OHmommy said...

Oh no. she didn't call? I can't even imagine how you explain that to a child. Im so sorry.

Kel said...

Oh I'm so sorry, how said for him to have a woman like that fill the biological role of 'mother'. That is just too sad and so wrong. :(
~K

Twisted Fencepost said...

Some people should not be allowed to give birth!

Kat said...

Clearly the woman is seriously ill. She must be. I just can't imagine either.
I'm so sorry. How horrible.

LceeL said...

I know a female person who has given birth to two little boys, who is by no means a 'Mother'. On the other hand, I look at the situation in which she grew up, with her father in prison and her mother a psychotic bitch, and I can understand how she never learned to parent. Still, she does seem to lack some instincts that I always thought women had. That said, she IS sexually confused and has swung from hetero to lesbian and back to hetero and now? Now I would guess she's somewhere in between.

It's easy to be on the outside looking in and criticize - Lord only knows I've been guilty of that. But I also understand that sometimes these things require a deeper look.

Tara R. said...

She is only an egg donor, not a mother.

Putz said...

heard so much about you from so many different people and here you ARE...WONDERFUL

Manic Mother said...

There are just certain people that should not breed! She may be his "Mother" but something tells me your his Mama, or Mommy...if you know what I mean.

shortmama said...

I cant imagine either. Your poor "step" son (I quoted that because you are obviously for more of a mother to him then his "mother" will ever be)

Putz said...

do you know who my mostest hero of all time all ages is?????????????.....the mahatma

Putz said...

ho ho, grab your button if you into that{grabbing buttons i guess}

angie said...

I'm assuming this is someone you know in real life? I don't understand either........How very sad though.

Momisodes said...

I just cannot imagine either. It is incredibly sad all around, and it's hard to not feel angry. Someone in our family is very similar, and it is just BEYOND me.

Mrsbear said...

I'm with you. It's unfathomable. I hope he had a wonderful birthday in spite. :(

Feener said...

there is a quote from the movie parenthood that always hit me hard

"you need a license to go fishing but any asshole can have a kid"

Unknown Mami said...

I'm sorry for her son.

Kim said...

I too feel so bad for her son.. those are feelings one never rids of.

Huckdoll said...

Sadness. I'm so sorry for her son.

MaryRC said...

just because a woman gives birth, it doesnt make her a mother. she never was. yup i agree sad.

Heather said...

I'm so sorry honey :( That is so unfair to him.

Amanda said...

Poor Andrew :( That is absolutely, horribly sad. I know from my dad never calling that it is the worst feeling ever.

He's lucky to have YOU in his life as YOU are his real mother (((HUGS))) to the both of you. And Happy Late Birthday to Andrew.

Kerree said...

I once read of a woman who killed her baby because she shot up some drugs and passed out on top of him. He suffocated on the floor of a public toilet with his so-called 'Mother' on top of him. This was about 10 years ago and nothing that 'Mothers' do has surprised me since. Love him twice as much :)