tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post6752288148538417680..comments2023-10-31T05:36:16.846-04:00Comments on Putting the FUN in DysFUNctional: I Refuse to be Last in LinePutting the FUN in DysFUNctionalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996772324484385959noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-486550077576014062011-03-21T22:54:54.901-04:002011-03-21T22:54:54.901-04:00I feel you, I know I have never questioned that I ...I feel you, I know I have never questioned that I am the top of the list for my husband of almost 29 years. As I'm sure he is at the top of mine.Mrs. Tunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04547957015150000116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-43047985999081343112011-03-20T18:38:38.537-04:002011-03-20T18:38:38.537-04:00I agree with you and that leader was not very nice...I agree with you and that leader was not very nice. Love the picture, your such a cute couple.Debby@Just Breathehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11685398064340027809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-88684556999913704432011-03-19T03:40:35.853-04:002011-03-19T03:40:35.853-04:00I always say that a husband doesn't have to be...I always say that a husband doesn't have to be smart. He just has to be wise. Sounds like yours is, and a very happy birthday to him.Mattyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13979949404266325705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-15856227308523331092011-03-18T21:35:55.067-04:002011-03-18T21:35:55.067-04:00Shame on that counselor! I'm so happy you foun...Shame on that counselor! I'm so happy you found the man that is giving you what you want and need. Happy Birthday to your hubby!More Than Wordshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11159856133879672250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-74317073559669846782011-03-18T12:21:22.799-04:002011-03-18T12:21:22.799-04:00I have goosebumps!
Beautiful post!I have goosebumps!<br /><br />Beautiful post!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-85044297730047271112011-03-18T12:15:32.685-04:002011-03-18T12:15:32.685-04:00Oh girlie I think that is beautiful and something ...Oh girlie I think that is beautiful and something amazing to want for yourself and deserve!!!<br /><br />That counselor really needed a reality check to laugh at someone in a group setting that is suppose to be open and nonjudgmental. <br /><br />HUGS sweets, I'm glad you went but that is unacceptable of what she did.Alexis AKA MOMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10829562970824293447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-79506909765169767772011-03-18T02:42:06.117-04:002011-03-18T02:42:06.117-04:00I'm late reading... Happy Belated Birthday to ...I'm late reading... Happy Belated Birthday to the hubs. <br /><br />I like your answer & GOOD FOR YOU for never going back & sticking to your guns. Everyone deserves to never be last!Myyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03248342096609316500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-45159151804608792622011-03-17T16:26:37.065-04:002011-03-17T16:26:37.065-04:00You DO deserve to be a priority and congrats for f...You DO deserve to be a priority and congrats for finding someone who treats you like one!<br /><br />Visiting from <a href="http://bloggingbuddiesgroups.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">The Blogging Buddies</a><br /><br />Have a great day!<br /><br />Carolee<br /><a href="http://www.comeonhome.net" rel="nofollow">Come on home</a> - mom blog<br /><a href="http://www.workingathomeadvice.com" rel="nofollow">Working at home advice</a>Carolee Hollenbackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03241629430901107593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-8564845228089105572011-03-17T16:20:02.195-04:002011-03-17T16:20:02.195-04:00i love your answer and i think its a much more rea...i love your answer and i think its a much more realistic answer than something trivial like "nice butt". i dont think that therapist was very good at her job.<br /><br />anyway, this is a great post and i loved it. happy bday to your hubby.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-82504925152934128662011-03-17T14:12:34.211-04:002011-03-17T14:12:34.211-04:00Im so glad that you got what you deserved!
Happy ...Im so glad that you got what you deserved! <br />Happy late birthday to the hubs!shortmamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18083148312260283511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-56405890985982901812011-03-17T10:31:31.496-04:002011-03-17T10:31:31.496-04:00Wow! Someone to help heal the hurt, to boost confi...Wow! Someone to help heal the hurt, to boost confidence, that would encourage you to reveal your biggest fears - and they just passed on such a important concept: to be a priority (meaning to be valued, important, not forgotten). I would have felt the same way, too.<br /><br />My parents were divorced. I wanted to become involved in the divorce care ministry of our church - and I did. I was appalled. All it focused on was what I wanted to get away from. It seemed to encourage wallowing in the stench of dysfunction (bad dysfunction, not normal dysfunction). My solution? I wrote my own program! LOL<br /><br />Congratulations on not letting someone who had no concept of unconditional love diminish your dream. Happy Birthday to your husband.<br /><br />Can I use this idea for one of my unconditional love rules? I love it: Unconditional Love: Rule #--, Unconditional Love always makes the one they love a priority!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-29568851164269677012011-03-17T07:34:51.087-04:002011-03-17T07:34:51.087-04:00Beautiful post. You are absolutely right- you dese...Beautiful post. You are absolutely right- you deserve to be a top priority in your man's life! Good for you for not going back to the class, and for sticking with what you wanted. Stopping by from YBR Mama.EMMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10994583997966937153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-63739070848059392692011-03-17T01:55:30.906-04:002011-03-17T01:55:30.906-04:00That's terrible, and I can't believe that ...That's terrible, and I can't believe that someone leading a counseling session would allow you to believe you shouldn't want to be a priority. I'm glad you never went back!The Lovely Onehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02116016955719774820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-22294455424551003222011-03-16T20:57:35.290-04:002011-03-16T20:57:35.290-04:00I don't think your answer should have been lau...I don't think your answer should have been laughed at passed over...what is wrong with that woman? You should be a priority to your spouse and it's the same the other way around...<br />How sad for her and the others who don't know the truth...what they truly deserve in a relationship...<br />and hooray for you for finding it!Not a Perfect Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09538588358382300444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-60030022946974285662011-03-16T20:55:24.496-04:002011-03-16T20:55:24.496-04:00Well, that was just RUDE! And to think this woman...Well, that was just RUDE! And to think this woman worked at a domestic violence shelter... props on the sensitivity training! I'm so glad you found what you were looking for... I hope I'm that blessed... of course, if I actually started looking that might help...Sorta Southern Single Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14349718837546442408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-85259985239624642892011-03-16T20:52:00.520-04:002011-03-16T20:52:00.520-04:00I totally agree with what everyone else has said. ...I totally agree with what everyone else has said. Let's take it one step further and be greedy...how about being a top priority AND finding a kind man with a cute butt? hehe I got both and it took me 13 years to find the right one after my first marriage. Great post!okroserockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01909142048496157350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-13309286878060122812011-03-16T19:37:05.507-04:002011-03-16T19:37:05.507-04:00I think that being a priority in someones life is ...I think that being a priority in someones life is at least a step above a nice butt. <br /><br />Maybe you did need to attend the relationship class, you could have taught them a thing or two :)Kristin - The Goathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08856336718919208752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-64296623942178151512011-03-16T18:08:46.999-04:002011-03-16T18:08:46.999-04:00I found you through PYHO and I'm glad I did! I...I found you through PYHO and I'm glad I did! I was in a terrible relationship with my oldest son's father. After that dissolved I had the same mindset - I wanted to be a priority. I didn't want to be a fall back, when nothing or nobody else was around. Luckily for you & me, we found ourselves amazing men!<br /><br />Congratulations for believing in yourself and knowing what you wanted (and what you didn't want). And Happy Birthday to your wonderful hubby!Kimberlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13034271381748240025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-87926354218037649882011-03-16T18:05:56.701-04:002011-03-16T18:05:56.701-04:00First of all- I was singing SheDaisy the whole tim...First of all- I was singing SheDaisy the whole time I was reading your post. Love that song.<br /><br />And really? How is that not a good thing to want in a relationship? Ridiculous that you were treated like that.<br /><br />I'm glad that you found someone who makes you a priority!<br /><br />I tweeted out your post.Shellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-89519970864989957592011-03-16T16:30:15.973-04:002011-03-16T16:30:15.973-04:00I agree wholeheartedly with you! We as spouses sh...I agree wholeheartedly with you! We as spouses should never settle for being nothing but toward the top of the list..... that's what a marriage IS for crying out loud. God is the only "thing" that's allowed to come before me..... not even our daughter. Great post!Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11928003400276630525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-42629728470235182592011-03-16T16:19:17.636-04:002011-03-16T16:19:17.636-04:00I am so glad that you shook off that counselors st...I am so glad that you shook off that counselors statements and didn't settle for less than what you deserve. That is fabulous! <br /><br />Happy birthday to your sweet husband!Tracie Nallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07908908021649000930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-70136012878977633032011-03-16T15:57:22.122-04:002011-03-16T15:57:22.122-04:00You deserve THE BEST...and it sure sounds like you...You deserve THE BEST...and it sure sounds like you got HIM! Happy Birthday to your sweet hubby!Aprilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13114076859455081016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-23001940101054792572011-03-16T12:23:28.297-04:002011-03-16T12:23:28.297-04:00That counselor has a lot to learn. No one wants to...That counselor has a lot to learn. No one wants to be the last priority in any relationship. There were probably other people in your group who felt the same and her reaction to you was dismissive and insulting. <br /><br />Happy birthday to your sweet husband and wishes for many, many more loving years together for you both.Tara R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02993625193184914299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-38697671676206668752011-03-16T11:15:18.030-04:002011-03-16T11:15:18.030-04:00I cant believe someone would LAUGH at that!!! Wha...I cant believe someone would LAUGH at that!!! What kind of counseling is THAT? probably a good thing you didnt go back...<br /><br />what a sweet post... so glad you found someone who holds you so highly in their life! You so deserve it!<br /><br />Happy Birthday to your man! :)Rebecca Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03965781380511208862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5136763350284688012.post-72672874122126281422011-03-16T11:03:06.287-04:002011-03-16T11:03:06.287-04:00I love this, Cyndy!
when I was 18 and telling the...I love this, Cyndy!<br /><br />when I was 18 and telling the sperm donor I didn't want to marry him because (well, for a lot of reasons, but most obviously) he cheated on me, my dad told me that my expectations were too high and I was going to die a lonely old woman.<br /><br />even then I couldn't help but wonder how it was asking too much to want someone to respect me, and our child, enough to remain faithful.<br /><br />I'm glad I didn't let that fear set in, because my expectations were NOT too high, and I found a man that met them.<br /><br />Happy Birthday to hubby and congratulations to you both for finding the right one ;)diane renehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14278917038491110157noreply@blogger.com